Men, listen up! Here is what women say they want you to know. This isn’t a scientific survey or an exhaustive list. it is a place to start to get a clue.

WOMEN WANT…

To be listened to and have their feelings validated.

To talk about their problems. Answers are not required.

Things to get better so will look for solutions.

To try and change men!

To be cherished.

To give but also get something in return.

To think out loud.

A steady growth of intimacy

You to know that physical affection does not have to lead to sex.

You to ask about their day.

Romance and surprises.

Dates to be planned.

Compliments

You to call and let them know when you are late.

Neck and foot massages.

You to stop flipping the remote.

Short romantic get aways.

An offer to fix something.

A hello and goodbye kiss.

You to stop blaming everything on PMS.

A strong spiritual guy.

Security and commitment.

A good father and companion.

I asked men what they wanted women to know. Although this is not a scientific study or exhaustive, you will enjoy the answers.

MEN WANT…

Solutions to problems without a lot of discussion.

To not relieve their problematic day.

To deal with stress by avoiding or distracting. That is why TV works well!

Us to stop giving unsolicited advice

To resist change

To be competent, achieving results and to be goal oriented.

Not to be told, “you can’t do that.”

To feel needed

To be less self-absorbed and more mature but not turn into their dads.

To mull things over silently and not have women assume this means something is wrong in the relationship.

Time to deal with problems and work on change.

To be single-focused at times and not be condemned for not multitasking.

Lists!

To make mistakes and not have you rub it in.

You to ask in an undemanding way.

To read minds but they can’t!

To flip the remote without comments in the room.

Toys!

Women to keep up their appearances but not be perfect.

Sex!

Women who will be great moms.

Women to read this and do all the above!

Dr. Linda answers the question, “Do I need a Christian therapist if I am a Christian and want to go to counseling.” How important is it to have someone who shares your world view when it comes to therapy help. Listen to this Mintle Health Minute

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