I’ve heard so many stories of hurt related to family cut off in my 25 years of being a family therapist. The person who cuts off is offended and angry. And the cut off family usually desire contact and relationship.
Cut off is especially difficult around the holidays. Even though the cut off member is still alive, grief is felt and often triggered at…
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Reader Question: My ex-husband has and I have divorced and he has visitation rights with our two children, ages seven and nine. The kids were scheduled to visit him over the Christmas holidays, but circumstances have changed and I would like some advice. My ex no longer goes to church and is living with a woman. He has made it clear…
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I am divorced and think my ex spends way too much money on Christmas gifts for our two young kids. This is causing tension between us. It feels like a competition I can’t win. I find myself spending too much because I don’t want to look cheap. He has more money than I do. I think he buys the kids expensive gifts because he feels guilty for…
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Everyone has stress, but is there a point that tips the scales and moves us from stress to burnout? The answer is, YES, and you can probably look back and say, “I know when that happened.” Usually, it has to do with when your health begins to suffer.
We all need a little stress inoculation-short bouts of stress that help us increase our efficiency and…
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Jack left work late, didn’t call his wife and missed the school meeting.
When he finally arrived home, he looked at his wife and said, “Don’t start. I’ve had a lousy day!” No apology. He walked away and his wife was angry!
Not a good way to handle the situation. Missing from this interaction was an apology. Jack could have started with, “I am so…
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