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  • Signs of Compulsive Overeating

    Julie is frustrated with her weight. She has been steadily gaining for months and can’t stop bingeing on candy. The more her weight goes up, the more depressed she becomes. Every night Julie promises herself that she’ll be “good”. Tomorrow she’ll start a diet and get control of her eating. But tomorrow turns out like today–she eats compulsively.

    It’s hard for Julie to tell the difference between physical hungry and eating out of boredom or stress. She hates feeling this out of control and won’t look at her body in the mirror.

    Julie is a compulsive overeater who doesn’t binge eat but “grazes” all day on food. She picks a little here, a little there, until she has grossly overeaten and gained weight. The compulsion to eat is emotionally based but adding physical pounds to her 5’2” frame. Julie reports she can’t get control, vows daily to diet and fails.

    Compulsive overeaters usually:

    · Overeat due to emotional issues and stress, not because they are hungry

    · Diet often because of guilt and weight gain

    · Feel out of control when eating

    · Feel disgusted with their bodies because they are overweight

    · Binge eat or overeat throughout the day

    Another type of compulsive eating is called binge eating. Binge eating is similar to bulimia because the person experiences uncontrolled eating episodes (binges). The difference is that compulsive binge eaters don’t purge. They eat until they are uncomfortably full. Most binge eaters are obese and struggle with weight fluctuations. About 2% of people are binge eaters with about one-third of those people involved in medically supervised weight control programs.

    Look for these signs if you think you may be a binger:

    · Recurrent episodes of binge eating

    · Feel out of control during a binge

    · Eat fast and feel uncomfortable

    · Eat large amounts of food when you are not physically hungry

    · Eat alone because you are embarrassed by how much you eat

    · Feel disgusted, guilty or depressed by the way you eat

    · Are distressed by the above

    · Binge at least 2 days a week for a 6 month period

    · Don’t purge to get rid of the food

    The tell tale sign of compulsive overeating is usually overweight or obesity which can have serious medical consequences. If you or a loved one struggles with compulsive or binge eating, get help now. There are no magical shortcuts but you can get control over food and learn to eat healthy.

  • Bulimia: Shame the Silencer

    When you are bulimic you can also suffer from depression, anxiety, substance abuse and other psychological problems. You might be an episodic drinker–not drink for periods of time and then go on drinking binges. Psychologically, drinking binges are similar to food binges. Alcohol and drug binges are more ways to numb the body from feeling loss or pain.

    Dieting can start the course of bulimia. If you are overweight or have overweight family members, you may be teased about weight. Losing weight, you think, is a way to stop this teasing. Or you may be anorexic and need to gain weight. Once you allow yourself to eat, you may feel out of control and start to binge.

    But issues around dieting are not the single cause of bulimia. Like anorexia, food is the abused substance. There is an internal struggle with self-image and external relationship problems.

    Bulimia usually begins later in adolescence than anorexia. It’s also not uncommon to see women in their 20s and 30s fight the disorder. The reason for this is that bulimia typically develops when identity is firming up and independence increases. These are tough development transitions for some people.  It’s not easy to figure out who you are or what you want to do with your life. In addition, the culture gives confusing messages when it comes to feminine and masculine roles.

    Furthermore, family problems may complicate the emotional process of leaving home. And certain personal characteristics such as perfectionism, low self-esteem and mood swings can complicate development.

    There is no one “bulimic” personality. But if you have bulimia you tend to feel inadequate, lonely, helpless, impulsive and moody. Low self-esteem is coupled with very high self-expectations that you or others place on yourself. You may have trouble saying no to demands and want to please others. Saying “no” to rigid demands might mean a loss of acceptance or even love.

    The worse thing you can do is hide your pain.  It takes courage to walk into a counselor’s office and say, “I need help. This disorder is running my life and I want to stop this constant bingeing and purging.” Be honest about your symptoms. Let someone help you. You don’t have to live your life thinking about the next binge or where you will vomit after the next meal.

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